STOP BEING A FROG- Abort your Stupid Emotions
The biggest sabotaging cues we see around ourselves come from the people around us. They seem to be the ones holding back most of our actions at every point in life. We tend to blame others for most of our miseries, and the fact that we are not being tenacious seems to be someone else’s fault, which may indeed be a possibility. However, it makes even more sense when those close to us are sabotaging us at the same time. A big example anyone can think of is family, which is often true.Just like everyone else who seems to hold back our potential, there could be responses; but when it’s actually someone close who isn’t willing to accept their role in this behavior while continuing to do it, that creates the problem.A FROG AND A SCORPION
Many of you may have heard this story before, but let’s give it another chance. Instead of starting with the typical “Once upon a time,” this tale begins differently: A frog and a scorpion were friends. Since the scorpion was venomous, there weren’t many aquatic animals interested in befriending him. The poor, lonely scorpion grew tired of solitude until a kind-hearted frog entered his life. They quickly became inseparable and felt like family; however, it was often difficult for the scorpion to resist the urge to sting the frog. He tried hard to control himself, but whenever he failed to overcome his instinct, it was usually the frog who jumped away first to avoid being stung.
One day, heavy rain flooded their surroundings. Unable to swim through the water, the scorpion asked the frog for help. Although apprehensive due to past attacks from the scorpion, he agreed after receiving assurance that he would not be harmed since biting would mean certain death for them both. Trusting this statement because it rang true, the frog allowed him onto his back as they began crossing the water together.
Midway across their journey, however, the scorpion bit into the frog’s back. As pain surged through him and poison coursed into his veins, the drowning scorpion explained that no matter what happened, he could not change his nature; being a scorpion meant stinging was an integral part of who he was—even if it ultimately led to his own demise as well.
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?
Yeah as it should, before coming to conclusion lemme introduce you to real life statements getting used at almost every house, room, building, society, basically all around the world, so wear your seat belts to waiting for your kind of sentence:
“I can transform him/her.”
“He/She isn’t inherently like this; it’s just the stress.”
“I’ll go to any lengths to salvage our relationship.”
“Sweetheart, your father isn’t a bad person; it’s just that his relatives treated him poorly.”
“I won’t repeat it, I assure you. I’m just overwhelmed.”
“I swear, I’ll change.”
“Our relationship is more significant than this argument.”
“After all, he/she is my father/mother/sibling/best friend/teacher/boyfriend/girlfriend… Why would he/she be harmful to me?”
“Perhaps, it’s all due to our financial issues. I believe it’s the money.”
And more Bullsh*t….. isn’t it?
Though we may be diverse in religion, nationality, caste, race, accent, language, and more, we are unified by our shared origin. Practicing detachment is the greatest gift you can give yourself, while extending kindness is the finest gift you can offer to others. However, relinquishing your identity, perspective, dreams, preferences, and opinions for others is a gradual path to self-erasure.
Regardless of the relationship, your foremost priorities should always be respect, self-love, and boundaries. If anyone attempts to even slightly infringe upon these, take it as your definitive cue to exit immediately. There should be no second chances for any threat to your identity.
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